I’m not saying I know this to be true, however, it is a cool inquiry.
So, on the flip-side is self-referral – the moment of choice – to join the other’s emotional pain-body with equal reaction or take pause…. an opportunity to do our own work.
I’m not sure about you but I have found it my funnest (yes, my word, it’s a Colleen-ism:}) and TOUGHEST work to be aware of my reactions. To stand in that uncomfortable conversation or situation and beg for that split-second pause before sending off a subconscious, automatic, old belief-pattern reaction – one that is usually never about the other.
We all know this moment and what it looks like. And we also all know that as good as it might feel to shoot off that immediate reaction it is never beneficial in the long run. I mean admit it, reacting in those old belief-patterns can often feel good, like an addict getting that first moment of the high – and yet that ‘satiation’ is only temporary, and typically, very damaging. Damaging not only to others but to ourselves. We are all human beings and love is our foundation. So the bottom line is when we react like this it never feels good to our own heart and soul. And isn’t this ultimately where the work begins? And ultimately where love must also begin?
This kind of work does not happen overnight yet I strongly feel it is such a beautiful place to put our attention.
And so maybe the next time we react on a whim, or are the witness or receiver of another doing the same, might we keep this in mind;
“If I’m not showing grace… have I forgotten the grace I’ve been shown?” ~John F. MacArthur
…. you just like me, me just like you, it is a daily work in progress.
Big love. ♥
Lately I’ve been hearing and reading about the different labels we like to toss out there about each other. Regardless of topic; political, spiritual, corporate, relationship, etc. It seems people are very easily put into categories or given labels… as if there’s limited types of people in the world.
On a girls night out amongst a couple friends whom I feel very close and comfortable with, ones I can be open-hearted and vulnerable with… you know, your ‘circle of trust’ tribe…. I decided to share some strong emotions I was juggling.
How aware and truly present are we in our conversations? I mean really!!… Are you aware? We talk to each other throughout our entire day, and conversation is our main means in connecting with others, and yet how truly present are we in our communication?